As I Was Saying Podcast

Zombie Friends

"Zombie friends" are the kind of people who drift in and out of your life, never truly sticking around. They might disappear for long stretches, leaving you wondering where they went, only to resurface when they need something—be it attention, support, or just a familiar face. They don’t make the effort to nurture the relationship when times are good, yet expect you to drop everything when they return. These friendships are draining, as they tend to only show up when it’s convenient for them, leaving you to feel like a placeholder in their life. Just like a zombie, they pop back in without warning, but with little regard for how much they’ve been gone or how much they ask of you when they return.

Adulting is a LIE

In this episode we jokingly agree that "adulting is a lie," reflecting on the pressure to have everything figured out while constantly feeling uncertain. We discuss how society portrays adulthood as a time of stability and success, but in reality, it's filled with unexpected hurdles, financial stress, and the constant need to make tough decisions. Finding comfort in our shared frustration, acknowledging that no one truly has all the answers.

Suffering well

In this episode, we explore the concept of learning how to suffer, especially when you're in a relationship. Life throws challenges our way, and it’s easy to feel isolated in our struggles, but when you have a partner, it’s important to figure out how to bring them in and lean on each other during tough times. We discuss the vulnerability that comes with letting someone in on your pain, how to balance supporting each other without feeling overwhelmed, and the importance of growing together through hardship. It’s all about finding that space where both partners can be there for each other—acknowledging that suffering doesn’t have to be a solo experience, and sometimes, sharing it can make it a little more bearable.

Stick or Run

In this episode, we dive into the complex world of identity politics, specifically exploring the question of whether we should continue supporting celebrities or public figures we like no matter what, or if it's sometimes necessary to call them out—or even walk away—when their actions or views don’t align with our values. We examine the balance between loyalty and accountability, and whether it's possible to separate the art from the artist or the public persona from the person. Is it worth holding on to that connection, or do we owe it to ourselves to stand up and make difficult decisions, even if it means letting go of someone we once admired? It's a tricky conversation that digs into how our identities shape the way we navigate our relationships with people in the public eye.

Getting back on track

In this episode, we dive into the challenge of getting back into the groove of recording the podcast after a break and how tough it can be to regain that momentum. Life happens, things get busy, and suddenly, that consistency you had built starts to slip away. We discuss the mental blocks that pop up when you're trying to start again, the pressure to pick up where you left off, and how difficult it is to get back into the rhythm once you’ve been away for a while. But we also talk about the importance of pushing through that initial resistance, setting small, manageable goals, and finding the motivation to get back on track – because consistency is key, and it’s always worth it in the end

Accidental forms of abuse in relationships

Best friends forever

Someone got married